Online dating, anyone?
“Serious question here, how is online dating going for y’all? I can’t speak for everybody else, so I’ll speak for my experience. When I was single and ready to mingle I operated in the believe that, if I’m a person looking for something serious online, there has to be a man also looking for a serious relationship through online dating. Although it was touch and go I found my honey using a certain criteria and set of tools. Should I share? Of course I should! Here’s what I use as judgment tools.
Number one…. DO post more than one picture of yourself. If you only post one picture up of yourself, I’m sorry but it looks like you’re not serious. It’s likely that you’re probably just on the app to look and meddle, lol! Ladies, I suggest using multiple pictures of you in different environments, with and without makeup, so people can get a sense of your authentic self. No need to catfish when you are looking for something real. Gentleman, we know you love your car and exclusive sneakers however, hold off on sharing those things. This is a good way to eliminate interest from women who are focused on financial gains.
Number two…DON’T skip your bio. If you didn’t want to take the time to create a bio, how can you be serious about wanting to match with a potential mate? Most online dating sites ask general questions to gather basic information about yourself. If you didn’t feel the need to put forth the effort to input down your basic information, how would someone believe that you will put forth effort in dating? That amount of effort says you’re not serious and most likely will cause a return in that effort and energy.
Number three…DO look for tangible and intangible traits that align with your needs and expectations. Take time to read through peoples bios. Online dating app bios give you insight into a a potential mate’s personalities. If a man with humor is important, then I would look for signs of humor in their bio. It is also a good idea to look for the age of a person as a preview into the level of maturity present. Paying close attention to the number of children a man has is typically an indicator of his mindset and goals for his future generations. We have already discussed before that a “man handling business” does not play about his legacy. After discovering these key factors one should know if like the physical appearance, the bio, and the distance then you can proceed with a match.
Number four….DON’T over look factors that align with your needs and expectations. If you have a particular job or career interests that aligned, religions that aligned and or hobbies those are things that can be used as buuidling blocks to a authentic connection. Ignoring them or fact that they are missing could slow down your progress in meeting your person.
Number five…DO use your likes and dislikes as talking points when you began to message. Yes, you should keep things light in the initial conversation. There is no rush to jump right into to talk of marriage. However, it would be a waste of time to ignore an opportunity to share some of your likes and dislikes. Share your hobbies and the things you enjoy in life. Connecting with someone with common interest can set the path for the conversation to grow and move you all towards a reason to converse outside of the app.
Now once you all start messaging, keep track with how was the conversation going? What type of conversation is being held? Is the conversation consistent? Does the conversation have substance or is it all superficial. And honestly, I would only message back and forth no more then 7 days. In my opinion after a full week of consistent messaging with someone who is interested, curiosity will definitely get the best of them. The average man, who is serious about getting to know someone, is going to ask for your phone number. If they don’t ask for your phone number, they are not serious.
Number six….DON’T take anything personal that happens on any dating app. Remember, these are total strangers and we do not know them nor their intentions well enough to become attached. Dating apps are a great tool to meet a number of candidates at once. We must keep in mind that if you are meeting a few people at once, so is everyone else.Keep things light and care free. Have fun until someone shows you that they are serious in moving forward into the next stage of dating. Using these criteria can you help you to not only be successful during online dating, but also safe and away from unnecessary stress and heart ache.