You’ve been out in public. You’ve been the kind of woman who frequents bars and lounges. You have sashayed through the sports bars. Yet you have not been approached by a man in years! Don’t worry…we’re going to teach you how to flirt today.! Come on, love….follow me!
Step One: You need to learn eye contact. I want you to be your authentic self. If you are naturally a shy person I understand, however you must learn to make eye contact. If the smile is not enough, stare that man down sis! Take a deep breath and look him up and down and say “Hey!” That’s it. This opens the door for a man to speak back. Men are afraid of rejection just like we are! Learn to give the man you are interested in the green light to approach so he knows rejections isn’t a possibility.
Step two: Let’s say you go out to a restaurant, sit at the bar by yourself. Flirt with the bartender. If it’s a woman, laugh and have good conversation with the bartender. It shows you as having a joyous spirit, and that will attract men. They like to laugh. They enjoy a good conversation. While you are at the bar having a good time solo, it will give the men in the room an opportunity to preview your energy and gather the courage to make his move!
Step three: Do not be afraid to invite that man over to you. You’re going to let him lead once he gets over to you, but some of these men need a direct and intentional hint. Oftentimes, they do not pick up the subtle flirt. So, here’s your scenario…. You’re sitting at the bar, the man is sitting across. You look over, pick up your drink and raise it in his direction, signaling for him to come on over. If you want to drive the point home, tap the seat next to you furthering the invite. Now, if he says, “No, thank you,” he could be married or he could be in a relationship. That’s ok! Please do not take that personally. Don’t feel rejected. Look at this as an opportunity to practice your flirting. If you have made eye contact, smiled, or looked him up and down then tap that seat next to him and tell him to come on over, he is just not for you. Don’t get discouraged. What’s the old saying, If at first you don’t succeed, try again.
Okay, here’s something else. Consider this a little bonus. I’m not asking you to be somebody that you’re not, I’m just telling you that men like to be needed. They want a woman that needs their help. So, you should start going to go to Lowe’s, Home Depot, Ace Hardware or well known any home improvement in your area. Also let me not forget to mention stores likes Autozone and O’Reilys. You’re going to go to a store like these when they first open because men who are handy are there when they first open. Do not over dress, men like natural beauty. Besides, who works on their home or car in heels? Remember we want to make this encounter look incidental and organic. As you walk through the store you’re going to spot a potential man in whatever aisle he’s in. If he’s looking for pipe, if he’s looking for outlets, you’re going to go down that aisle and you’re going to pick up something related to what he is searching for and ask him, “I think I need one of these out in my house, but I’m not sure. Can you help me with this? I am sure he will respond with a sure! Now, you have an opportunity to say thank you and to introduce yourself. I would follow up with, ” What’s your name? I’m Ashlee.” Boom, you got your man!
